Initially, my first thoughts were 😮😳😞😢. Why? What was wrong with me? What did I post that invoked that? What was wrong with what I shared? How can I help this person see I’m not as bad of a person as they assume.
1.5 years ago, I would have been a mess. I would have cried. I would have slipped into depression sadness questioning if I was “good enough.” I would have spent days- NO WEEKS if not a month- questioning myself! I would have run through these questions over and over again contemplating how I could change to be “worth approval.”
But I’ve worked hard to CHANGE! I put in the time to learn new thoughts and push out what I have thought for so long. I have stepped through the filth to get out of my head and to learn to love myself.
I’ve given lots of tears to heal from a past that taught me I wasn’t worth liking or having in someone’s life. (Specifically for me, my biological parents who left me feeling alone and not worth their time. Forever afraid people would always leave because I wasn’t worth having in their live.)
I let those thoughts last 1 minute this time. 💪🏼🙌🏼 Not worthy thoughts weren’t allowed to stay anymore. 😉
I have fought to learn that comments like this mean nothing. I put in all the mental work to teach myself jerk comments are just that with nothing useful to give, so Byeeee to them. 😉
I reread this comment and this time I LAUGHED OUT LOUD.
I could think of 3 FUNNY audios to respond because it’s fun to share my growth and sassy side. 😉😁🤪🤣 BUT I decided to talk it out which is a bit more scary for me! But it may help someone else to see/hear the truth behind this comment. There is so much to tell, so I decide to write it all out. 🤪🤣
The second read caused me to LOL 🤣 because I can think about it differently now:
1. TOLERABLE: 🤪 I barely tolerate myself… well I used to barely tolerate all my mistakes and imperfections. 😉 On this post sharing my favorite things as a sports mom, what made me not tolerable? That I am a mom who loves supporting her kids? That I am a woman who likes her accessories? That I am a girl who loves moving to music? That I am a creator who enjoys transitions in reels? So which of these made me tolerable?? 🙄
I can make a list of assumptions and faults people could see based on my profile. Sure, all these negative things about me- tolerate me. Regardless, all the things that this reel told about me were not “tolerable” qualities. 😉 They are proud and happy qualities I like. 🥰
Whatever reason makes me “tolerable” is LAUGHABLE. I am who I am and if you can’t tolerate ME then… BYEEEEE TO YOU. 🤣 I don’t need to change myself to be “good enough” for a person who doesn’t like me for who I am.
If a person is “tolerable” then get out of THEIR LIFE. It’s good for you and them. 😉 No one should feel like they are tolerated by the people in their life. 👌🏼
What if the truth here is that YOU’RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME AND MY LIFE. 😉 BOOHOO I’m devastated. (Sorry that was a little harsh.)
2. DECENT LOOKING: Oh thank you thank you for that semi compliment. 😊🤣 First, I don’t need your approval on my looks and body. 😏 Some will see my beauty and some won’t. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I had to learn to see what beauty I have and embrace it over the parts less beautiful.
Second, I finally learned to love the inside of me which is more important than the outside. I won’t get into that because there is a lot there. 😉 Besides, The most important beauty I want seen is the beauty I give from my heart. ❤️
Ps- we don’t think every person is attractive, so not every person is going to find us attractive. That’s ok. 😉 It’s far from devastating if someone doesn’t see you as beautiful.
3. A MONTH: 😳🤪🤣 Buddy, Buddy Buddy! 🤣 I have dealt with myself for 38 years and with sh** people don’t know about. (Excuse my language, I don’t swear but this is how I’d categorize it into one word.) IF YOU CAN’T DEAL WITH ME FOR A MONTH (and the only side I share in life) –YOU ARE WEAK! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
In a bit more seriousness, you don’t truly know someone in a month. There are people in my life that have known me for 5, 10, 15, 20, 25 and 30+ years and they don’t truly know me. (My choice to put up those barriers.) If someone decides you aren’t worth getting to know after a month, week or day 1… they aren’t your type of person. For your sanity, confidence and happiness in life say “GOOD RIDDENS” to them walking out. It’s their loss not yours. 😉😊
I hope you can apply these lessons into your life.
You don’t need everyone to like you.
You don’t need others to approve of what you do.
You don’t need people in your life who “deal with” you.
WHAT YOU DO NEED IS TO LOVE WHO YOU ARE.
YOU NEED TO ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE!
YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY IN YOUR LIFE.
When these become a priority in your life, you will have people in your life that are worth having in your life. 😉 Could be a small group or could be a big group. The quantity doesn’t matter. The quality does. ONLY ALLOW GOOD QUALITY IN YOUR LIFE BECAUSE YOU DESERVE THAT. ❤️
